Maybe you’re overjoyed that your family has grown, but now most of your time is devoted to managing schedules or delegating chores. Or, even if you’re in almost constant contact with your spouse, you can never figure out what to say.
Shifting Priorities Can Make It Difficult To Spend Purposeful Time Together
Maybe your relationship has naturally developed into something that no longer resembles the passionate and spontaneous one you both enjoyed, but you aren’t sure how to rejuvenate your desire for one another in a way that fits your life now.
Perhaps no one close to you is dealing with the same challenges you are, leaving you feeling isolated. For instance, if you and your partner are members of the LGBTQ community, or if you’re child-free and living in a neighborhood filled with young children, you might be navigating social pressures your friends can’t relate to. It might be difficult to see through these added layers of tension and focus on the connection that brought you and your partner together.
At RAFT Counseling, we understand that life is already hectic enough without having to do maintenance on your relationship. However, couples therapy can help you find authentic ways to communicate and help you rediscover the spark you once had.
So many of us get caught up in the hustle of our day-to-day life. Managing work and family can be a massive job for anyone, especially if you throw in keeping up with extracurriculars and a social life.
In a culture that values being on the move and getting things done, it's hard to stop and connect with your partner. Sometimes, life just gets in the way. Over time, the attraction that brought you together can seem like it’s fading. Like many other couples, you might be unsure how to revitalize your desire for each other.
Phone calls, text messages, and emails are all readily accessible ways to keep in touch. But, when we reduce our conversations to quick updates and reactions to memes or emojis, we can become comfortable with quick and easy communication.
Even when we are home with our partners, it’s easy to get sidetracked by outside interruptions. And after a long day, it’s tempting to plug in and check out, making it tough to create intentional time with your partner.
Fortunately, with the help of a couple’s therapist, you both can learn to forge pathways to reawaken the joy in your relationship despite distractions and expectations.
A lot of people think that relationship problems will work themselves out on their own—or with advice from family or friends. While well-intentioned, most of the time family and friends don’t have the training and expertise to be impartial and support couples in working together and getting back on the same page.
As therapists, we understand the importance of an unbiased and grounded approach in helping couples overcome communication issues in their relationship or marriage. Even if you’re not married or in a non-traditional relationship, at RAFT Counseling, we are dedicated to helping you with whatever challenges you and your partner are facing.
Feeling disconnected from your partner can take a toll on your relationship. Contact us today to schedule your free, 15-minute phone consultation so you and your partner can bring laughter and joy back to your partnership. We would love to partner with you to take intentional steps in feeling connected!
We understand that it can be hard to fit something else in when it already feels like your schedule is full. But prioritizing time for counseling can show your partner that you’re committed to improving your relationship.
We want to make sure you get the best chance to take part in therapy and improve your partnership. To do this, we give you the option of telehealth and flexible schedules, such as bi-weekly availability. That way, you don’t have to drive long distances and take time out of your already busy schedule.
It’s normal to be nervous about coming to therapy. If your partner is hesitant, we encourage you to schedule a consultation with us. Your consultation will be with the therapist you will work with and your partner can ask them to clarify anything they’re unsure about before your first appointment.We can also connect you with one of our therapists who specialize in individual counseling to give you the opportunity to work on yourself. While not as targeted as couples therapy, individual work can impact your relationship and positively affect your life.
While we understand finding childcare can be difficult, we do not recommend bringing children to sessions. Therapy is a space for you as a couple to be vulnerable and focus on your own needs and wants, which can’t happen if you need to focus on your children as well. If you don’t have any options for childcare, we offer telehealth appointments. That said, we still urge you to schedule sessions during naptime or other downtime so both you and your partner are free to be open and honest.
Therapy timelines look different for everyone. Together, we can customize a plan that fits your challenges and goals. Couples tend to start more often to gain traction and make changes quickly. Then, they decrease the frequency as things start to feel better. So, some clients see us for a few sessions and feel so much better that they choose not to continue therapy. Likewise, other clients see us for several months in order to address underlying concerns, build strategies, and achieve identified goals.
Our hope is that the relationship we establish as counselor and client will feel helpful and supportive as you reach your goals. Often, clients return to us months or years later for support when life happens and some additional support might be helpful. If we’re no longer a good fit, we aim to connect you with someone that is. We want to be an important piece of your support network.
We are so glad you are dedicated to getting the most out of your sessions. Our therapists will suggest strategies, offer additional resources, and recommend activities to complete between sessions. In order to achieve the best results, we recommend you actively participate in sessions together and talk with your therapist about how things are going for you and your partner.
RAFT therapists at our Parker, CO counseling practice have extensive experience working with couples wishing to improve their connection. We would be honored to collaborate with you in taking the next steps toward re-connecting and making your partnership as strong as possible. You can access our services in person or virtually using online therapy in Colorado. Reach out today to get started.